Unfriending Facebook: Putting Down My Newsfeed to Gain Some Fresh Perspective

I’m saying GOODBYE to Facebook!

Ok, not really. But kind of.

After struggling with a lot of self-pity and self-doubt lately, I have decided to delete the Facebook app off of my phone.

You guys, this is a HUGE deal for me. I don’t know how much time I spend on my phone each day scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed. Facebook is how I keep tabs on my friends and family. It’s how I know what’s going on in the lives of people I care about (and people I only kind of care about). It’s where I share cute pictures of my littles and post status updates where I attempt to be funnier than I really am.

It’s where I find, or at least seek, validation…

And THAT is why I need to say goodbye. At least on my phone. And just for a little bit (for now, anyways).

Because I find myself going on Facebook less and less to see what others are up to and more to see how many thumbs ups or hearts or laughy faces my latest post got.

Because I find myself spending too many minutes each day wondering why someone else’s post got more reactions and comments than mine when I posted almost the exact same thing.

Because I find myself analyzing every word I type, wondering if this will get the attention I think it deserves.

Because I find myself thinking that I’m just not interesting enough. That nobody really cares about anything I have to say. That nobody cares at all.

Comparison is the thief of joy

Comparison is the thief of joy. We’ve all heard this popular phrase in some way. And Facebook throws comparison in my face.

Wow. Look at her. She does so much stuff everyday and she STILL keeps her house looking immaculate!

Ooohhh. Look at her. She just started her new business and she’s already finding a lot of success!

Oh how fun! Look. They all got together and did this fun thing. And you weren’t invited.

Look. Look. LOOK!

I’m looking! And the more I look, the more I feel left behind. I feel like I’m being left in everyone’s dust. I feel like everyone is doing everything better and faster and cooler than I am. She’s a better mom than I am. She’s a better homemaker than me. She’s better at being social. She’s a better friend. She’s a better wife.

I can’t keep up! Oh, I try. Because I’m competitive as fudge and don’t really like when other people do some things better than me. But I can’t. I just can’t.

So I think I need to step away. I need a breather. I need to remember that Facebook does not define me.

Go ahead. Roll your eyes. I know you want to. And I don’t blame you. I probably would have rolled my eyes reading something like this not too long ago. Like, seriously? She can’t handle reading other people’s Facebook posts without feeling like crap about herself?

Honestly? No. At least not right now. This has never really been a struggle for me before. But for some reason it has become one recently. Because I’ve gotten to that point where now I see a post and I think “Ugh. Why does she brag about herself so much?” Or “Okay, her kid isn’t THAT special. Geez.” Or “Why the fudge do people care so much about HER but don’t give a crap about me when I post the same thing?!”

I hate that. I hate thinking that way. I hate feeling resentment for my friends’ successes when I should be jumping for joy with them. I hate mentally belittling the words and actions of others because mine went unnoticed.

I refuse to choose pity for myself over joy for others.

So the Facebook app on my phone is getting the big D. (Deleted, guys. It’s getting deleted.) I’ll still access Facebook on my computer once or twice a day since there are a few things I need to do on there occasionally. But I won’t be able to check it on my phone every hour of every day. And what I’m hoping this will accomplish (besides having more time in the day, because we all know Facebook is a major time suck) is that I will spend less time focusing on what others are doing and I will spend more time actually doing my own thing. And really doing it for me. Not to be more like her. Not to be better than her. Not for the likes and hearts and laughy faces. Not for the comments and validation and assurances. I want to do my own thing solely for me.

stop looking at life as a facebook post

It will be hard to not share things on a whim or scream out an accomplishment or success. But I need to stop looking at life as an opportunity for a great Facebook post. I need to start living it.

Have you struggled with comparing yourself with others because of social media? How did you handle the struggle? Would you get rid of a social media app to “refresh” yourself?

 

Kid Creative in Your Community: The Home Depot Kids Workshops

Being creative and crafty with young kids can be a pretty daunting thing. It gets messy. The instructions might be hard to follow. And little ones aren’t the best at following directions or doing what they’re told. Especially when there’s paint, glitter, or glue within arms reach! So I wanted to start a series of blog posts that focuses on crafting with our kids. My Kid Creative Series will offer ideas on kid friendly crafts and share about places within your community where you can let your kids be creative without you worrying too much about the mess. Because we all want to make things together, but we don’t necessarily want to deal with the mess or the aftermath.

The first post in this Kid Creative series is  about a community creative opportunity. And the best part is that it is 100% FREE! I’m talking about the Kids Workshops at The Home Depot.

Kids Workshop Apron with Pins

Let me start by saying that I am in no way being compensated by The Home Depot for writing this blog post. I am sharing this because these workshops are something my littles and I truly love doing together. We discovered these fun workshops late last year when I was looking for ways to get my kids out of the house on the weekends. I had looked into the Kids Workshops before, but I always thought my littles were too young for something that involved a hammer and nails. But now that they are 4 and 6 years old, I figured, “Why not give it a shot?” I’m so glad we did because we all had a great time and my littles were so excited to build something fun with their own two hands.

Our first Kids Workshop at The Home Depot

Now we attend the workshops almost every month. It’s something fun to look forward to and we always have a good time. Here’s a little more information about this great creative opportunity right in your community.

What Is It?

Kids Workshops at The Home Depot are a free event held every month at all Home Depot locations across the country. Kids receive a free project kit that they can build and assemble with their parents or guardians during the workshop time and then take home with them once it is complete.

What Can I Expect?

A lot of noise and a fun time! When you arrive to a kids workshop, all you need to do is sign your kids in. The employees will then hand you a project kit with everything you need to build the project for that day, including all nails and/or screws, decorative stickers, instructions for building your project, and  a plate and sponge brush for painting. Find a table with some room for you to start building, then hammer away! The Home Depot provides any tools you’ll need (i.e. hammers, screwdrivers) and the paints for your projects. Your kids will also receive a free apron, a certificate of completion, and a commemorative pin featuring that day’s project.

Gingerbread House Project Kit

Why I Love The Home Depot Kids Workshops

  • They’re FREE! Like, no strings attached, no purchase necessary, absolutely FREE! Who doesn’t love free stuff?
  • The projects are great quality. These are not the cheesy kids crafts that just end up in the trash can after a day or two. Your kids build these projects with real wood and nails and they are functional and sturdy enough for constant use and play.
  • The projects are truly DIY. Ya’ll, my knowledge of wood crafting and building things is limited to knowing how to hammer a nail into a piece of wood. I think I’ve used a power drill maybe twice in my lifetime. But I have no problem helping my littles build and assemble these projects. If you can use a hammer and turn a screwdriver, you and your kids will have no issues at one of these workshops.
  • It’s a great teaching opportunity. These workshops are a great way to teach your kids about following instructions as they go through the steps to build their projects. Also, since there are only so many paints, hammers, and screwdrivers at each table, it’s a great time to work with your kids on sharing, waiting for your turn, and asking politely for an item that someone just finished using. You can also get your younger kids learning other things as you build. For example, if the project uses two different size nails, I’ll ask my kids, “Can you find me a short nail? We need a short nail for this next step.”
  • It’s CREATIVE! Once the project is assembled, kids get to paint them however they like and then add stickers to finish it off. This is always my littles’ favorite part. They spent time following directions and building, but now they get to be creative and paint it however they want. It’s a simple way to be creative with my kids.
  • The mess stays at The Home Depot. No worries about sawdust or stray nails or paint streaks in your home. All that stays at the store while you get to go to your mess-free home with a finished project and a (hopefully) happy child! The biggest mess you might see is some paint on hands, but that’s it! And I can live with that.
  • Collecting pins! At each workshop, the kids get a commemorative pin for that day’s project. These are fun little mementos  to pin onto their aprons and it’s fun seeing other kids’ aprons and how many pins they have. My littles always make sure I put their pins on their aprons as soon as we get home.

A Few Tips for Attending a Kids Workshop

  • REGISTER! Make sure to register your child(ren) ahead of time before going to a workshop. Each store is allotted a certain number of project kits based on registration numbers. And some store locations will not give you a project kit unless you are registered. So registering helps ensure you get a project kit that day, although some locations will still run out of kits. To register your child(ren), go to https://www.homedepot.com/workshops and pick your preferred store. Then look for the kids workshop, click the Register button, and fill in the information.
  • Get there on time. Kids Workshops run from 9:00am-12:00pm. The earlier you get there, the better. This not only ensures you’ll get the project kit for that day, but you’ll also have a better chance at getting table space to build your project. Our Home Depot location gets very crowded during the kids workshops. Often times I will see families building their projects on the floor because there isn’t enough space available at the tables.
  • Be prepared for crowds and noise. Like mentioned before, these workshops can get pretty crowded. And with a bunch of kids making their projects all at once with hammers, it can get pretty loud too. So be prepared if crowds or loud noises are not your thing.
  • Save the stickers for home. On average, building a project from start to finish takes me and my two littles around 1 hour to complete, including painting. So waiting for paint to dry to put on those final stickers is definitely not a priority for me. After painting their projects, we clean up our work area, gather our things, and head home. Once their projects are completely dry, then I let the littles put the stickers on to finish up their projects.
  • Be Kind! As with any type of event, things won’t always go as planned. So please, PLEASE, be kind if you run into some sort of bump along the way. If your store has run out of the free aprons that day, just wait until the next workshop to get one. Our location didn’t have aprons the first time we attended, but the next time we went they had plenty to give away. Project kits can also run out, so be prepared to receive a kit from a previous workshop if you didn’t register or if you arrived later in the day. If that happens, just enjoy building the kit you received. Remember to set the example for your children and use any mishaps as a chance to talk to your children about any disappointment or frustration you or they might be feeling.
Three projects made by my littles at Home Depot Kids Workshops

Kids Workshops at Home Depot are really a great opportunity to be creative with your kids. If you haven’t checked one out yet, I highly encourage you to give it a try!

Have you attended a Home Depot workshop with your kids? What was your experience like? What did you build?

 

Stop Waiting for The “Perfect” Time to Start

I’m a perfectionist at heart. You’d never know it from the piles of laundry and massive amounts of clutter scattered throughout my home. But it’s true. I like things a certain way. I like things to be perfect in my sense of the word. And that has held me back from doing a lot of things. I put off projects because I’m not in the perfect mood or don’t have a perfect design. I don’t write down ideas because I don’t have the perfect notebook or the perfect layout for my notes. I’m not even joking!

So when I had the thought to launch yet another blog/website and rebrand myself, to start fresh and build from scratch, of course I kept putting off taking action. The timing had to be perfect. I needed to have the perfect name. The perfect logo. The perfect plan. But I realized that if I kept waiting for the perfect circumstances, I’d never get anywhere. Sometimes there is just no such thing as the perfect time to start. Sometimes you have to jump right in and go for it!

Taking that first step is always the hardest. There are so many fears and uncertainties that come with any venture, especially with starting something like a new business. But if we are constantly waiting for perfection before even starting, then we will just keep on waiting. Nothing is ever going to be perfect. And even if we think we have the perfect this or that, there is something that will inevitably go wrong. But we can’t let that keep us from moving forward. So do it. Just start. Just go for it. Start that project. Launch that website. Write down that business plan. It doesn’t have to be perfect to get it started.

Here I am with a basically blank website, no logo, and this very first blog post to my new brand name. Yes, it drives me nuts seeing an imperfect web page. Yes, my anxiety is telling me I’m not ready yet. Yes, my insecurity is screaming at me because none of it is perfect. But it will never be “perfect”. And that’s okay. I just had to start. I can fix up my website. I can add amazing content. I can create my perfect logo. But my first step was to just start. To just launch this site and write this post and get myself ready for all the other starts ahead of me. I’ll take the next steps as they come. And believe me, they probably won’t be perfect either.

What do you need to start today? What’s holding you back? Don’t let excuses hold you back from just jumping in and starting!